HASTE MAKES WASTE

HASTE can take many forms: there's 'man-made haste' and there's haste that's  'out of my hands'.  'OUT OF MY HANDS 'HASTE                  haste to take action when a calamity comes and a  natural 'alarm reaction' takes place.                   unplanned haste when a new-born comes early in life and  lifesaving measures need to be taken                    'MAN MADE HASTE'                  haste to GET THE BEST                  haste to BE THE BEST                  haste to FINISH A PROJECT                  haste to STOP A PROJECT                  haste to GET OUT OF WORK                  haste to 'GET OUT'                   haste to 'GET TO'                  haste to BE FIRST                  haste to BE IN CONTROL                  haste to BUILD                  haste to TEAR DOWN               Even in DAYLILY HYBRIDIZING    we so easily succumbto hasty decisions:                   haste to BREED A YOUNG SEEDLING                              and easily forget to not stress it with                               motherhood the first year                   haste to CULL A SEEDLING                              not realizing it needs to mature before it's                               judged correctly       haste to BRAG ABOUT A SEEDLING                               when the full report isn't in                  haste to GO INTO DEBT TO HAVE THE BEST               SELDOM DOES HASTE BRING ANYTHING                                        BUT WANT                          HASTE WORKS AGAINST US                           PATIENCE WORKS FOR US With my husband's and my experiences with buying and  selling homes we have seen in reality the effects that haste  brings....                             The pitfalls of  HASTE WHEN BUYING A HOME YOU DON'T SEE THE FLAWS YOU ONLY SEE THE "NICETIES" AND  POSSIBILITIES (especially if you are of the creative bent) YOU DON'T COUNT THE COST (accurately) you only know  you LIKE it..                                                                                                             and that it fits all our needs for                                                                                                                      LOCATION                                                                                                                             BEAUTY                                                                                                                                   SPACE                                                                                                                                          PRESTIGE                                                                                                                                                  FINANCES                                                                                                                                                        POTENTIAL  When we bought our small Rogers Mn house (on the Crow  River) it fit all our needs, and then some (the river).          WANTS:                      TO BE IN THE COUNTRY                      TO BE INEXPENSIVE                      TO HAVE "METRO PHONE"                      TO BE ABLE TO HAVE A HOBBY FARM                      TO BE MORE THAN 3 ACRES (3.2 acres to be exact) You see, the fact that we could afford it and it was in the  country..and on the river..with metro phone..met all our criteria. We knew it need finishing..                                                                                                              BUT, IN OUR HASTE                                                                                                                             WE DIDN'T SEE                                                                                                                                   ALL THE WORK                                                                                                                                           ALL THE PROBLEMS                                                                                                                                                   ALL THE UGLINESS                In our NAIVETE                 In our HASTE                      We 'JUST KNEW' this was the place for us! Little was I aware                             of the depression that would take hold of me                            when I REALLY saw                                  -EVERY DAY-                            All the TORN UP                            UNFINISHED                            UNTAPED SHEETROCK WALLS.                            THAT WERE SPATTERED WITH DRIPS                            OF DARK STAIN FROM                            SOME OF THE WINDOW TRIM                            AROUND THE  THREE                            LONG NARROW,                            SCRATCHED                            PLEXI-GLASS  WINDOWS in the Living Room Little did I know                          how the                          RIPPED AND TORN                          PLASTIC VAPOR BARRIER                          ON MOST ALL OF THE                          UNSHEETROCKED WALLS would invade my visual senses.                         (our eldest son has a word for that : VISUAL POLUTION and that certainly is what it was!)  Or how the SEVERE LACK OF COUNTER SPACE         with only a FOUR FOOT SINK BASE,                         COVERED WITH LINOLEUM,                         INSTEAD OF TILE OR FORMICA, would undo  all of my enthusiasm for our  HOUSE OF DREAMS, our LITTLE CASTLE. Little did I know                        the importance                         of  correctly applying                         WINDOW and DOOR TRIM so that the house looked right.                       Or that BARE PARTICLE WOOD FLOORS                                              would give splinters                      and wouldn't be pleasant to the eye for long. After all, I, "The Interior Designer",   I, the one who had a beautiful wool                                    KARASTAN area rug           could cover up the all flaws and be happy.... Little did I know                       that even though the                                                                                                      PRICE WAS RIGHT I would find myself isolated  from all my friends and family,                           even though they were only a phone call away,                                                    they were miles away and the                                                    HOUSE OF MY DREAMS                                                      couldn't take shape until                                                              (UNLESS !)                 I was willing to give up my hobby farm dream                 and "willed" myself to drive back into the cities      an hour each way and continue on in the Interior Design profession, rather than entering into my new adventure           that we had spontaneously (HASTILY) taken on. The Interior Design job would have brought in the monies                                                                    to make the house MORE THAN A DREAM           MORE THAN A NIGHTMARE                    MORE THAN A BRIEF  SOLACE  in the moonlight where I couldn't see all the flaws, all the ugliness, all the stains and rips and blemishes                                                                                                                 of our "new" country home.                       BUT  SINCE    I had given up the Design job to be an                   'at home' wife and  Mother    I had good motives, good reasons,     and good enthusiasm for the task ahead:                                                                 to create a hobby farm                                            one that would give us                                         milk and eggs and produce.                                                             SO                  we added Dairy Goats,which ended up being out total focus ,  (showing them in  three states )                   Chickens,  (had 100 new babies in our bathtub before an abode was  ready for them                  -HASTE MAKES WASTE!!- Ducks, (the fox took one-a-day until they were gone)  Geese,  Rabbits,  Irish Water Spaniels  and a plethora of garden vegetables (greatly enhanced by  the goat and chicken manure). We became  too busy  and too poor   to finish  'THE HOUSE OF DREAMS'.                                   OUR HASTE  to have a hobby farm                                                   BLINDED US from seeing the                                                               WHOLE PICTURE.                       REALISM WASN'T A PART OF IT, ONLY                        DREAMS AND POSSIBILITIES. OUR HASTE            OUR LACK OF WISDOM               OUR LACK OF EXPERIENCE                      OUR ENTHUSIASM FOR A 'GOOD DEAL'                                     TAUGHT US MANY LESSONS,                                               AND A BIT MORE WISDOM.                                           When we decided to sell it 3 yrs later  and look for a more 'finished' house and more  acreage and full sized barns, and metro phone I experienced                    AN UNEXPECTED      YET BITTERSWEET EXPERIENCE.                           BITTERSWEET                                            BECAUSE  the new buyer took up my offer to draw up the blueprints  for them so they could finish the house. I had always visualized the gem it could be, we just weren't able to  create it. They could, and did!                 BUT GOD ALWAYS                                                 HAS SOMETHING GOOD IN MIND                                      WHEN WE MESS UP.... In our case it was meeting my dear FAITHFUL FRIEND EVY in our new location, just outside of the city of Rogers, Mn. Now even 33 years later we are still close friends...even though we keep on moving farther and father away..she has been FAITHFUL and I have been her grateful recipient. We started out when our sons were both in Kindergarten together and we went to the same church. She was so truthful...and TACTFUL ..I still remember when she told me she wanted to be my friend but she had so many friends  she didn't know how she could fit me in....she was so right..but for whatever reason she DID and we have gone through many trials and testings and lots of  joys and experiences together. Truthfully, because she has a great sense of humor, I think she actually liked coming out to the 'farm' and enjoyed observing all the "critcher"-her word-love it!- things going on in our world. I remember very distinctly when my hubby Dick asked me to call her (a nurse) to come out and give our goat a pelvic 'cuz the goat was having difficulty birthing! Did she do it?? Of course!!! She loves a good laugh and it became a great story to tell. We have gone the whole gamete...and now enjoy more sedate times like her mentoring me in water coloring...she sends me  notes in the mail with pure white envelopes water colored with flowers all over it. In the past and still at times now,  she'll bring down bags and bags of leftovers-  clothes or trinkets...I take them all ..I have NEVER met anyone so generous...she has hooked me a rug, that sits at the edge of my bed to keep my feet warm from the old hardwood floor recycled her slipper and hand knit me new ones,  sends me articles on Daylilies from the Minneapolis Trib ....the list goes on and on!  Besides that, she is still our 'resident  nurse' always ready with a helpful answer when we have an important question about something medical. Also, if I am low on money and we want to go out to eat...she knows the best restaurants to hit and ALWAYS has a coupon so that we eat like queens and  spend like paupers! NICE!!!                                                       AND  because this Blog is supposed to be about HASTE I have to say...I don't remember  time when FAITHFUL FRIEND EVY was ever hasty (although I  am sure she would disagree with me because I am not with her at all times)..she's quite wise and very pro-active.....so I always have to remember that......                                even though the Rogers House                             WAS VERY  BITTERSWEET................                                  IT REALLY WASN'T.                                                          BECAUSE...                                                               I GAINED                                                                      A LIFE-LONG                                                                                LOVING                                 FAITHFUL FRIEND EVY                      I guess being hasty isn't so bad after all!!! Here is a picture of the daylily I have named after her taken a few years ago...                                                         FAITHFUL FRIEND EVY  of course!!!                                                     For you daylily fans the parentage is:                                                   FOLLOW THE FASHION X POINSETTIA LOVE Actually, I wish I was 'more hasty' in moving "her" in a better spot so "she" could 'come into her own' with better soil. "She" was moved 2010, late summer and suffered, so hopefully this Summer she will show off again!