HASTE can take many forms: there's 'man-made haste' and there's haste that's 'out of my hands'.
'OUT OF MY HANDS 'HASTE
haste to take action when a calamity comes and a
natural 'alarm reaction' takes place.
unplanned haste when a new-born comes early in life and
lifesaving measures need to be taken
'MAN MADE HASTE'
haste to GET THE BEST
haste to BE THE BEST
haste to FINISH A PROJECT
haste to STOP A PROJECT
haste to GET OUT OF WORK
haste to 'GET OUT'
haste to 'GET TO'
haste to BE FIRST
haste to BE IN CONTROL
haste to BUILD
haste to TEAR DOWN
Even in DAYLILY HYBRIDIZING
we so easily succumbto hasty decisions:
haste to BREED A YOUNG SEEDLING
and easily forget to not stress it with
motherhood the first year
haste to CULL A SEEDLING
not realizing it needs to mature before it's
haste to BRAG ABOUT A SEEDLING
when the full report isn't in
haste to GO INTO DEBT TO HAVE THE BEST
SELDOM DOES HASTE BRING ANYTHING
HASTE WORKS AGAINST US
PATIENCE WORKS FOR US
With my husband's and my experiences with buying and
selling homes we have seen in reality the effects that haste
The pitfalls of HASTE WHEN BUYING A HOME
YOU DON'T SEE THE FLAWS
YOU ONLY SEE THE "NICETIES" AND
POSSIBILITIES (especially if you are of the creative bent)
YOU DON'T COUNT THE COST (accurately) you only know
you LIKE it..
and that it fits all our needs for
When we bought our small Rogers Mn house (on the Crow
River) it fit all our needs, and then some (the river).
TO BE IN THE COUNTRY
TO BE INEXPENSIVE
TO HAVE "METRO PHONE"
TO BE ABLE TO HAVE A HOBBY FARM
TO BE MORE THAN 3 ACRES (3.2 acres to be exact)
You see, the fact that we could afford it and it was in the
country..and on the river..with metro
phone..met all our criteria. We knew it need finishing..
BUT, IN OUR HASTE
WE DIDN'T SEE
ALL THE WORK
ALL THE PROBLEMS
ALL THE UGLINESS
In our NAIVETE
In our HASTE
We 'JUST KNEW' this was the place for us!
Little was I aware
of the depression that would take hold of me
when I REALLY saw
All the TORN UP
UNTAPED SHEETROCK WALLS.
THAT WERE SPATTERED WITH DRIPS
OF DARK STAIN FROM
SOME OF THE WINDOW TRIM
AROUND THE THREE
PLEXI-GLASS WINDOWS in the Living Room
Little did I know
RIPPED AND TORN
PLASTIC VAPOR BARRIER
ON MOST ALL OF THE
UNSHEETROCKED WALLS would invade my visual senses.
(our eldest son has a word for that : VISUAL POLUTION and that certainly is what it was!)
Or how the SEVERE LACK OF COUNTER SPACE
with only a FOUR FOOT SINK BASE,
COVERED WITH LINOLEUM,
INSTEAD OF TILE OR FORMICA,
would undo all of my enthusiasm for our
HOUSE OF DREAMS, our LITTLE CASTLE.
Little did I know
of correctly applying
WINDOW and DOOR TRIM so that the house looked right.
Or that BARE PARTICLE WOOD FLOORS
would give splinters
and wouldn't be pleasant to the eye for long.
After all, I, "The Interior Designer",
I, the one who had a beautiful wool
KARASTAN area rug
could cover up the all flaws and be happy....
Little did I know
that even though the
PRICE WAS RIGHT I would find myself isolated from all my friends and family,
even though they were only a phone call away,
they were miles away and the
HOUSE OF MY DREAMS
couldn't take shape until
I was willing to give up my hobby farm dream
and "willed" myself to drive back into the cities
an hour each way and continue on in the Interior Design profession, rather than entering into my new adventure
that we had spontaneously (HASTILY) taken on.
The Interior Design job would have brought in the monies
to make the house
MORE THAN A DREAM
MORE THAN A NIGHTMARE
MORE THAN A BRIEF SOLACE in the moonlight where I couldn't see all the flaws,
all the ugliness, all the stains and rips and blemishes
of our "new" country home.
I had given up the Design job to be an
'at home' wife and Mother
I had good motives, good reasons,
and good enthusiasm for the task ahead:
to create a hobby farm
one that would give us
milk and eggs and produce.
we added Dairy Goats,which ended up being out total focus ,
(showing them in three states )
(had 100 new babies in our bathtub before an abode was
ready for them
-HASTE MAKES WASTE!!-
Ducks, (the fox took one-a-day until they were gone)
Irish Water Spaniels
and a plethora of garden vegetables (greatly enhanced by
the goat and chicken manure).
and too poor
'THE HOUSE OF DREAMS'.
OUR HASTE to have a hobby farm
BLINDED US from seeing the
REALISM WASN'T A PART OF IT, ONLY
DREAMS AND POSSIBILITIES.
OUR LACK OF WISDOM
OUR LACK OF EXPERIENCE
OUR ENTHUSIASM FOR A 'GOOD DEAL'
TAUGHT US MANY LESSONS,
AND A BIT MORE WISDOM.
When we decided to sell it 3 yrs later
and look for a more 'finished' house and more
acreage and full sized barns, and metro phone I experienced
YET BITTERSWEET EXPERIENCE.
the new buyer took up my offer to draw up the blueprints
for them so they could finish the house. I had always visualized the gem it could be, we just weren't able to
create it. They could, and did!
BUT GOD ALWAYS
HAS SOMETHING GOOD IN MIND
WHEN WE MESS UP....
joys and experiences together.
Truthfully, because she has a great sense of humor, I think she actually liked coming out to the 'farm' and enjoyed observing all the "critcher"-her word-love it!- things going on in our world. I remember very distinctly when my hubby Dick asked me to call her (a nurse) to come out and give our goat a pelvic 'cuz the goat was having difficulty birthing! Did she do it?? Of course!!! She loves a good laugh and it became a great story to tell.
We have gone the whole gamete...and now enjoy more sedate times like her mentoring me in water coloring...she sends me notes in the mail with pure white envelopes water colored with flowers all over it. In the past and still at times now, she'll bring down bags and bags of leftovers-
clothes or trinkets...I take them all ..I have NEVER met anyone so generous...she has hooked me a rug, that sits at the edge of my bed to keep my feet warm from the old hardwood floor recycled her slipper and hand knit me new ones, sends me articles on Daylilies from the Minneapolis Trib ....the list goes on and on!
Besides that, she is still our 'resident nurse' always ready with a helpful answer when we have an important question about something medical. Also, if I am low on money and we want to go out to eat...she knows the best restaurants to hit and ALWAYS has a coupon so that we eat like queens and
spend like paupers! NICE!!!
because this Blog is supposed to be about HASTE I have to say...I don't remember time when FAITHFUL
FRIEND EVY was ever hasty (although I am sure she would disagree with me because I am not with her at all times)..she's quite wise and very pro-active.....so I always have to remember that......
even though the Rogers House
WAS VERY BITTERSWEET................
IT REALLY WASN'T.
FAITHFUL FRIEND EVY
I guess being hasty isn't so bad after all!!!
Here is a picture of the daylily I have named after her taken a few years ago...
FAITHFUL FRIEND EVY of course!!!
For you daylily fans the parentage is:
FOLLOW THE FASHION X POINSETTIA LOVE
Actually, I wish I was 'more hasty' in moving "her" in a better spot so "she" could 'come into her own' with better soil. "She" was moved 2010, late summer and suffered, so hopefully this Summer she will show off again!